So you are thinking about getting married when? vision 2020 or 2018? The time doesn’t matter now, but how well are you preparing? oh! you thought i meant for the wedding? nope! I meant for the marriage. most times, if not all the time, ask a would-be groom or bride ‘how is the preparation coming up? And what you will hear is “I am searching for the perfect suit/gown, we are yet to book a venue, we have decided on the types of food that will be on the menu, and many others.
But it is dangerous to spend all your time preparing for the wedding – a day event while you neglect marriage. How pruned is your character? How well can you manage the ‘for worse’ of another person? check out this list of some traits that shows a person is not yet ready for marriage. If you ‘test positive’ to any of them, it is important you make the necessary adjustment, please don’t ignore. Here is the list
2. You don’t share your space: I know we all love to be alone sometimes, but to be alone all the time? haba! Friends come over and you nag so much they wonder why they are with you, you don’t like people coming around and even when you are in an open place you will rather be alone and God helps anyone who tries to come closer. Save me the ‘i am an introvert bullshit’, introverts aren’t alien from another planet that need to be kept at an arm’s length. when you get married, you will be living with a man or a woman forever and ever, 24/7, no break, no time out even when you are not around physically, you owe must keep in touch. Not just your spouse, there will be in-laws, relatives coming around, but here you are, you can’t even live with a roommate successfully for two weeks, how then do you intend to cope?
The list is endless, but the most important thing is that you should start minding your character, behavior, actions and even reactions. Evaluate yourself and make corrections where necessary, that’s how the better becomes the best.