Reason I Didn’t Want My Husband to Be a Pastor – Rev’d Funke Felix-Adejumo
Reverend Funke Felix-Adejumo is undoubtedly one of the most famous female preachers in Nigeria and Africa as a whole.
While she is so vocal and very inspiring, Rev’d Funke Felix-Adejumo hated the public life before she became a pastor’s wife and a preacher.
In an interview with Punch newspaper, she revealed how she initially stood against her husband’s decision to go into ministry because to her, that was not part of the agreement when they got married.
In her own words, “I hated public life and I never imagined I would become a pastor or a pastor’s wife in my lifetime. When we wedded, I never visualized that my husband would become a pastor. That was why when he said God had called him, I said it was impossible.
“I felt he couldn’t choose people like us because we didn’t have anything. After I had an encounter with the Lord, I agreed to follow my husband to Akure. Today, I don’t want to live in any other place aside from Akure,” she recalls.
Speaking on her upbringing, Reverend Adejumo said people were not excited when she was born as they hoping her mother would give birth to a boy.
She said further that her father was discouraged from sending her to school because being a girl believed she would become pregnant.
“When I was born, people cried for my father because they expected that my mother would be delivered of a boy having welcomed two girls earlier. When it was time to send me to school, they told my father not to bother to waste his money because I would become pregnant. Afterward, my brother became sick. For six years, my dad suffered a lot; he sold most of his belongings until my brother died and we became very poor,” she recalls.
However, she was determined to change the story of her family.
“I can’t remember what my mother didn’t sell in her lifetime and it ranged from oranges, maize to pounded yam. I hawked so much that I still have a scar at the center of my head to show for it. When my brother was ill, we sold all the plates in the house. So, my mother would pound cocoyam and put it in my palms (where I fed from). The reason why today I hate mushrooms (my mum plucked them from a neighboring farm) is because we couldn’t afford meat or fish.
“We remained like that for many years but I always had it at the back of my mind that I would become great one day. I didn’t know how I would achieve it, but I knew I would be the one to help my family. I thank God that He heard my cry and that was why my father told me that I was better than seven sons,” she notes.
But as the saying goes, nothing last forever, not even poverty and lack.
“At 14, I gave my life to Jesus and that was when my life witnessed a turnaround and it has been getting better and better. I got born again in 1978 and in 1982, I met my husband. On September 8, 1982, I accepted to marry him and we became man and wife on September 8, 1984.”
“My dad was my hero. When he died three years ago, my husband said, ‘Oh, my competitor is gone.’ I spoke with him every day on the phone and he was such a religious man. When my husband proposed to marry me, I told him that I didn’t think I could ever love another man like I loved my father. My father was extremely proud of me and up until when he died, he prayed for me every morning,’’ she says.
She also shared some advice for married women “Our society only prepares the girls for marriage and leave out the boys.We live in a society where the male gender is believed to be superior and that is why they cried when I was born. Our society has magnified the concept of marriage so much that people feel if you are not married, you are not fulfilled.
“Marriage doesn’t complete an individual. If you are an incomplete bachelor or spinster, you will have an incomplete marriage. It’s a lot more important to be the right person than finding the right person or marriage. Marriage is not a means to an end but one of the means to an end. When you are happily married, it’s supposed to enhance your destiny,” she notes.
Happily married for over 3 decades, Rev’d Adejumo shared some important marriage tips to help married couples “The grace of God and the fear of God has kept us going.My husband is my best friend and I am his.We both run our marriage based on transparency and honesty. We never go to bed bearing grudges and sometimes, we go to bed at 4am trying to iron out issues.
“My husband and I do not work on Mondays. We don’t joke with our vacation, so sometimes we make out time to visit Ghana, Dubai or check into a hotel in Akure just to be together so that nothing will tamper with our marriage, friendship and bodies.”
Speaking on fashion, she said, “I don’t sleep with my make-up on. At the same time, I know you are addressed the way you dress. I can’t afford to spend a fortune on fashion because I pay the school fees of many children.”
She advised married women to always keep their home peaceful because wherever they go, they will always go back there.
“You must understand that no matter where you go, as a married woman, you will always come back home. So, if you soil your home on your way out, you will meet it the same way you left it when you return. You have no right to export your Christianity to the outside world if you don’t put your home in order,” she concludes.