Written by Pastor Faith Oyedepo
Peace and blessings in Jesus name. I hope you have been putting all that you learnt in the previous teaching to work. We shall continue by looking at areas in which you need to exhibit submission.
It is unscriptural for a woman to seek to pursue a vision or spiritual project when her husband is against it. A woman must first identify with her husband’s calling or vision. In fact, the Bible says you are to fit in. Like a part of a jigsaw puzzle, you must adapt and adjust to your husband’s dream. As you do so joyfully, if God has given you a different ministry, your husband will gladly back you up. I am a living proof of this.
Out of zeal, a number of women take offence when their husbands don’t allow them to take up certain activities in their local church. By applying wisdom in prayers, a woman can get her husband to change his mind about her kingdom interest. Never should you resort to quarrelling. Remember prayer changes things.
Don’t keep your body from your spouse with the hope of punishing him; it is unscriptural. The Bible says: The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife (1 Corinthians 7:4). An understanding that your body belongs to your husband and his to you will make it easier to yield your body to him. For instance, you may not feel like making love with your husband, but out of submission, you freely do so if he so desires. Your husband will have more respect for you and go out of his way to please you. Whether he does or not, however, knowing you are obeying God’s commandment will bring you so much satisfaction.
Physical submission also includes your outward appearance, cooking, taking care of the home, etc. If your husband doesn’t like a particular way you wear your hair, makeup or clothes, please be submissive enough to change it, rather than saying, ‘That’s the way I know how to do it’. As a wife, if you seek to please your husband, God will make your life pleasant.
Money is merely a device of buying and selling; it should never be a channel for the devil to gain access into your home. It should not be exalted as a god. It is the love of money that makes many couples deal dishonestly with one another in marriage. Some wives go to the extent of hiding money away in banks, without the knowledge of their husbands.
I don’t hide away money from my husband and my openness has motivated him to trust me completely. As husband and wife, whether you keep a joint account or separate account, you must ensure that there is openness. This is the only way to avoid shame.
Let me give you a word of caution here. Submission must be absolute, that is true. But the Bible gives a condition in Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Submission is as unto the Lord. When a man wants his wife to engage in practices contrary to the Word of God, she is scripturally not expected to submit; to do so is absolutely foolishness! This must, however, be treated with caution.
I read about a couple some time ago. The man was engaged in bestiality; he slept with animals and involved his wife too. He often made her sleep with dogs while he watched. The result was that their three children were demon-possessed. The woman should have refused outrightly! Making heaven is more important. We must not compromise our faith.
In Africa, where some people consult with witch doctors for divination, healing, etc., wives must be exceptionally careful not to be lured into this practice or any that displeases God. There is no justification for such. In case your husband is not born again, constantly ask God for wisdom on how to submit to him the Bible way, without displeasing God or missing heaven!
To be able to submit rightly, you need Jesus Christ in your life. You need to be born again. This can be done by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are already born again, rejoice because your case is settled. If you are not yet born again and you desire to do so right now, please pray this prayer with faith in your heart: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).